Rape Culture: When Do We Let Bygones Be Bygones?

Yesterday I asked when we can talk about reputation following a tragedy. The answer was, per Sam Klein, "At least wait till the families have been informed." Today I want to talk about grace and letting go — and how damn hard it is to do so. WARNING: Controversial content.

When Can We Discuss Reputation Following A Tragedy?

When is it okay to talk about grievances against an individual or group if a tragedy affects them? WARNING: I'm not going to pull my punches. If you're easily offended, hit the back button.